Why do i avoid responsibility

To win these games, we often have to stop playing them. This often happens when we bring up a particular problem in our life to a friend. Trying to help, the friend will start giving suggestions on how to fix our problem.

The premise of this game is that an individual suffers from a certain disadvantage in life, but they use it as a way to justify their lack of drive and motivation to do better. Of course, if a person has a real disadvantage then they have a good reason to accept their difficulties in a certain domain in life. You need to be honest. These are 3 common games people play to avoid taking responsibility for themselves. This will end up exhausting, frustrating, and annoying us, until we agree with him or completely renounce he takes his responsibilities.

We cannot force anyone to take responsibility. We can only dialogue to try to understand that we all have obligations and that a good coexistence depends on each one being mature enough to assume the consequences of his actions, correct his mistakes and take charge of his responsibilities. Therefore, sometimes the only solution is to know people and lower our expectations.

If we know that someone systematically evades his obligations and responsibilities, better we do not count on that person for serious matters. I am a psychologist and I spent several years writing articles for scientific journals specialized in Health and Psychology.

I want to help you create great experiences. Learn more about me. We have detected that you are using extensions to block ads. This site is the product of hours of research and selection of the most recent and useful information to help you get to know yourself better and build the tools that allow you to control yourself and the world around you. Skip to main content Skip to primary sidebar Skip to footer Home » 7 tactics people use to avoid responsibilities.

Jennifer Delgado I am a psychologist and I spent several years writing articles for scientific journals specialized in Health and Psychology. About Blog of Psychology, curiosities, research and articles about personal growth and to understand how our mind works. This site is made with a lot of love, several cups of coffee and some cookies, which we use for analytical purposes and to show you personalized content.

Accept Reject Read More. Close Privacy Overview This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. Out of these cookies, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website.

These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. But opting out of some of these cookies may have an effect on your browsing experience. For entrepreneurs, it can lead to failure. We all avoid something from time-to-time, but across-the-board avoidance is a problem. If you recognize yourself in these examples, that's good, awareness is the first step to change.

Be aware of your avoidance behavior. Here are some examples. A client left a message saying there's an issue she needs to discuss with you.

This makes you nervous so you decide to call her back later--and later turns into days. Meanwhile, the client feels ignored and the underlying stress seeps into everything you do. Let's say you the above client really is upset about something. You immediately jump to the conclusion that you'll lose them. As if that's not bad enough, you may lose one or two more, and if that happens your business will be crushed. You may even be forced to get a job, but you have been self-employed for years, what else are you qualified to do?

You have to prepare for an upcoming speaking engagement. The thought of standing up in front of a room full of strangers shouldn't intimidate you, but it does. Thoughts of preparation stir anxiety, so you push the project to the back of your mind--you'll get it done when you're in the mood. Major indigestion seems to be a daily thing nowadays and that's not normal. Antacids aren't working anymore, and you begin to think you may have a serious illness.

If you see the doctor you may have to face the reality of a diagnosis, so you avoid making the appointment and decide the problem will go away on its own. Your parents, intentionally or not, did or said things during your childhood that you interpreted into, "I'm not good enough".

Today, you avoid anything that reinforces these belief patterns. Cold calling, asking for help, and voicing your opinion are a few examples. You're supposed to go to your niece's birthday party in two days from now, but you didn't expect things to get so busy at work.